STAY & THRIVE
Trauma-informed coaching for women to build felt safety, embodied presence, and the skills to CULTIVATE THRIVING CONNECTION in marriage, motherhood, and life.
Resourced to stay.
Inspired to thrive.
I’m Heidi Lakin.
I help women build internal capacity and relational skills, so you can stay present, nurture intimacy, and expand in connection, with your partner, your children, and yourself…
without self-abandonment or avoidance.
This is about learning how to stay.
With yourself.
And in relationship.
Deeply self-aware.
And still frustrated.
WHAT IF YOUR SYSTEM JUST NEEDS MORE SUPPORT, NOT MORE PRESSURE?
Are you tired of being in a self-aware prison?
Many women arrive here deeply self-aware, yet still frustrated, dysregulated and stuck.
You understand your patterns. You know your triggers. You’ve tried everything that “should” work. And yet your body feels anxious, shut down, or on edge, especially in your marriage.
Self-awareness without embodiment can turn into constant monitoring, overthinking and pressure to “do it right.” While this can feel like something is broken, it’s often a sign your system needs more support, not more insight.
I meet women inside the frustration and help them build the internal & relational resources to get unstuck.
Healing happens through experience
My work is a trauma-informed modality that blends nervous system regulation, intimacy skills, reparenting, and embodied awareness in practice.
Together these pieces help move healing out of your head and into your body, showing up where it matters most: in real conversations, real conflict, and real closeness.
I call this process Building The New: learning how to respond differently, relate differently, and experience connection in a way your body can actually receive.
Awareness becomes freedom.
When you’re resourced.
If your marriage dysregulates you, that doesn’t mean it’s broken. It often means something wants to heal.
Marriage is one of the most activating and healing relational spaces.
What if your relationship isn’t the problem?
What if it is the place where healing is meant to happen?
Rather than assuming dysregulation means something is wrong, this work supports you in building the capacity to stay present, repair after rupture, and restore safety and intimacy over time.
True repair happens in relationship, when your nervous system learns it can stay grounded, self-honoring and connected simultaneously.
Regulate. Repair.
Stay Connected.
THIS IS RELATIONAL HEALING THAT RIPPLES OUTWARDS
What heals in marriage, flows into motherhood.
As you learn to regulate, repair, and stay connected under stress, you create more safety, presence, and confidence in your parenting.
Building nervous system resilience and relational skill in your marriage, naturally touches every area of your life. You will feel supported, not just as a partner, but as a mother, friend, and woman in the world.
The skills you cultivate in marriage create a calmer, more present, and playful home.
I didn’t rebuild my life through force. I learnt to meet the need and rebuild through presence.
Coming back to myself and owning my story has been deeply empowering.
Learning that rest is safe.
And softness is rewarding.
What if doing more isn’t the answer?
What if it’s about slowing down and learning how to be?
I went from chronic stress, anxiety, anger, dysregulation, fatigue, and feeling unseen… to feeling grounded, empowered, present, and deeply cherished.
The shift didn’t come from leaving my life behind. It came from learning how to cultivate connection, both inwardly and relationally.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO JUST SURVIVE
This is a safe space.
Where you can come home.
You don’t have to choose between your nervous system, your marriage, and the mother you’re becoming.
You can be resourced to stay & inspired to thrive in connection.
STAY & THRIVE
PATHWAYS TO
