STAY & THRIVE
Coaching for women who want to build felt safety, embodied presence, and the skills to CULTIVATE THRIVING CONNECTION in marriage, motherhood, and life.
Resourced to stay.
Inspired to thrive.
I’m Heidi Lakin.
I help women build internal capacity and relational skills that support you in staying present, nurturing intimacy, and expanding in connection, with your partner, your children, and yourself…
without self-abandonment or avoidance.
This is the work of learning how to stay. With yourself. And in relationship.
Deeply self-aware.
And still frustrated.
WHAT IF YOUR SYSTEM JUST NEEDS MORE SUPPORT, NOT MORE PRESSURE?
Are you tired of being in a self-aware prison?
Many women arrive here deeply self-aware, yet still frustrated, dysregulated, and stuck.
You understand your patterns. You know your triggers. You’ve tried everything that “should” work. And yet your body feels anxious, shut down, or on edge, especially in your marriage.
Self-awareness without embodiment can turn into constant monitoring, overthinking and pressure to “do it right.” While this can feel like something is broken, it’s often a sign your system needs more support, not more insight.
I meet women inside the frustration and help them get unstuck
Healing happens through experience
My work is a trauma-informed modality that blends nervous system science and integration, intimacy skills, reparenting, and embodied whole-heartedness.
Together these pieces help move healing out of your head and into your body, so it can be integrated in the moments that matter most: real conversations, real conflict, and real closeness.
I call this process Building The New: a practice of exploring how to respond differently, relate differently, and experience connection in a way that your body can actually receive.
Awareness becomes freedom.
When you’re resourced.
If your marriage dysregulates you, that doesn’t mean it’s broken. It often means something wants to heal.
Marriage can be one of the most activating and healing relational spaces.
What if your relationship isn’t the problem?
What if it is the place where healing is meant to happen for you?
Rather than assuming dysregulation means something is wrong, this work supports you in exploring and strengthening your capacity to stay present, navigate ruptures, and invite safety and intimacy to emerge over time.
True repair unfolds in relationship, as your nervous system experiences it can stay grounded, self-honoring and connected simultaneously.
Regulate. Repair.
Stay Connected.
THIS IS RELATIONAL HEALING THAT RIPPLES OUTWARDS
What begins to heal in marriage, flows into motherhood.
As you practice regulating, repairing, and staying connected under stress, you invite more safety, presence, and confidence in your parenting.
Building nervous system resilience and relational skills in your marriage, naturally touches other areas of your life. Many women notice an increased sense of support, not just as a partner, but as a mother, friend, and woman in the world.
The skills you cultivate in marriage can contribute to a calmer, more present, and playful home environment.
I didn’t rebuild my life through force. I learnt to meet my needs and rebuild through presence.
Coming back to myself and owning my story has been deeply empowering.
Learning that rest is safe.
And softness is rewarding.
What if doing more isn’t the answer?
What if it’s about slowing down and learning how to be?
I lived from chronic stress, anxiety, anger, dysregulation, fatigue, and feeling unseen… to learned practices that helped me feel more grounded, empowered, whole-hearted, present, and deeply cherished.
The shift didn’t come from leaving my life behind. It came from learning how to cultivate connection, inwardly, relationally, and with the parts of myself I had long overlooked.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO JUST SURVIVE
This is a safe space.
Where you can come home.
You don’t have to choose between your nervous system, your marriage, and the mother you’re becoming.
You can feel resourced to stay & inspired to thrive in connection.
STAY & THRIVE
PATHWAYS TO
