“Vulnerability makes us approachable and attractive, because it’s a gift to the person we’re with. It’s an unspoken compliment that says, “I trust you to be gentle when I put down my armor. I feel safe with you.” When someone gives me such a gift, my instinct is to be tender so as to reassure her that I understand the honor.”
WHETHER YOUR GOAL IS
🤍A playful, thriving and secure marriage,
🤍A connected and respectful home with minimal tension and yelling,
🤍Inner peace and safety for thriving in all areas of your life…
I’D LOVE TO COACH YOU!
I would love to support you with voice notes from my heart to yours, reaching into your situation to brace you with strength, encouragement, empowerment and insight!
If you love the idea of coaching but don’t feel ready to commit to live zoom calls, this would be a great option. It is a joy to be able to use voice notes to craft thoughtful, intentional and tailored responses to help get you out of a stuck place and inspire insight, heartfelt reflection and empowerment over your marriage, parenting or personal situation.
Please note, I only work with women. You can read why below in my FAQs.
No discovery call is needed. You can just purchase an audio coaching response anytime you need it. This can be a stand alone service or in addition to your other coaching commitments for further support.
*Audio coaching with me is $45 per response (up to 20 minutes) for clients without a membership. With a membership, you will get a 20% discount.
PURCHASE AUDIO COACHING
Group coaching has that safe, encouraging community feel that fortifies in a really beautiful and unique way!
The perks:
2 x 60 minute live zoom group coaching sessions per month, a private WhatsApp group, and complimentary first year of the Choose Connection membership including discounts on private coaching (renews after 1 year for $24). If you are already a member, you get your first month free!
Group coaching is such a gift because not only do you get a chance to workshop some things when you feel ready to raise your hand for coaching in this setting, but you also get to learn and grow from watching other women being coaching. This is a rich way to engage in the skills, mostly because there is always something unexpectedly beautiful that we can all receive when listening to differing situations, responses and perspectives.
Please note, I only work with women. You can read why below in my FAQs.
No discovery call is needed. Just fill out the form below to register your interest and select your area of focus. I offer group coaching in 2 areas, marriage and parenting. This is a new service so once there are 3 or more people interested in your area of focus, I will reach out with next steps. I require a 3 month minimum commitment. Cancel anytime after 3 months.
REGISTER YOUR INTEREST TODAY
It is my passion to facilitate a process for women where they can find their own way back to themselves and choose connection for their relationships.
60 minute Live Zoom coaching sessions As you need them
If you are interested in being coached one-on-one by me, I’d love to meet you. Book your free discovery call below so we can make sure I am the right fit for your relationship goals.
Please note, I only work with women. You can read why below in my FAQs.
*Coaching with me is $160 per session for first time clients without a membership. With a membership, you will only pay $120 per session plus get extra perks, like voice note support.
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About THE
DETAILS
A holistic approach in choosing connection
I have been working on building a trauma informed, holistic coaching platform where you can be empowered to choose connection through various pathways. You can see these pathways here (still a work in progress). I have other components I am slowly and intentionally planning on as I build this out. And I am excited to continue to share that with you.
Coaching though, is my favorite way to empower women towards connection. I am so moved by your stories, so inspired by your courage and forever grateful that you choose to dive into the work and trust me to empower you.
My Heart
In all of this, my priority as a coach is to ensure that whoever engages with my content and services can have a life-giving and transformative experience while achieving their personal and relational goals. I love to nurture this process by facilitating a really respectful and safe environment as we dive in and do the work, in whatever capacity.
…a trauma informed holistic coaching platform where you can be empowered to choose connection…
FAQs:
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This work is probably going to feel unfamiliar if you are used to viewing and pursuing transformation through spiritual means. This work is practical. It brings you back to your body and helps you learn to trust yourself. It reminds you of you who are and why it is important to be whole and healed in yourself to see lasting transformation in your relationships. While there is nothing wrong with spiritual practices, this work helps you pause from what might be a habit of spiritual bypassing so you are not leaning on such ingrained pathways of dissociation or even control. I know for myself, I was using spirituality as a way to control my husband and others around me. This work completely rocked me to my core and gave me the opportunity to surrender and let go so I could rebuild from a place of connection rather than something contrived. However the beautiful things that happen when you begin to surrender can definitely touch on our spirituality, because everything is connected. When we work on coming back to our body, we are creating a sense of wholeness, which includes and better supports our spirit.
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This work disrupts the cultural norms where relationships are the focus of all the work; two people working on the union rather than each person being accountable for themselves. Instead of a partnered approach where control can creep in, we bring it back to the individual. I believe with my whole heart the best way to change a situation is to look inward. This work teaches you how to become wildly accountable and shows you how to live empowered through that accountability. This means you own what you want to see, you own the change, and you own how you show up because you are fully accepting responsibility for your life and how you choose connection to others. This tried and true method often inspires the kind of transformation in the relationship that exceeds all expectations.
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This work will challenge the parts of us that pertain to certain outcomes. Instead we learn how to let go of rigid expectations and trust in a new value; the ability to cultivate. This work is a journey and it teaches you how to till and plow your life. It’s a holistic approach and instead of just trying to get to the destination quickly, it takes the scenic route. It is about fully healing, connecting, surrendering and owning every step along the way. It shows you how control never leads to love and is a fast way to kill the connection to yourself and others. You’ll see how control is a way to actually abandon yourself because your energy goes towards focusing on the behaviors of others. This work is about self acceptance, self compassion and self empowerment. It’s about trusting the process so you can CULTIVATE the life you’ve always wanted.
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My experience is embedded in being a women, so I am most effective when I can share about and speak to connection with a feminine perspective. Men and women are so very different and our experiences are often contrasting. The nature of my work has a huge foundational piece to it that is focused on the feminine energy and how powerful it is to own that energy as a woman. When in a relationship with a man, the feminine gifts can truly inspire, compliment, and empower the masculine energy without having to involve the man in the process of coaching (which can feel contrived anyway). This soft, restful and seated strength creates waves of opportunity for any relationship, but especially with a man. Beautiful things start happening when we rest in that innate design, and it is crucial to this work. I have seen how this approach yields testimony, after testimony of transformed relationships with spouses, children and others. So for now I only coach women.
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I have learned through my own journey, that emotional and relational turmoil is often related to chronic illness and pain.
Casey Means MD puts it like this: “If we harbor unprocessed chronic stress or trauma, we may be biologically primed to register that the world is not as safe as it could be. This can translate, via hormonal and neurologic responses, into impaired metabolic health—our metabolism doesn’t work optimally if it perceives that we are threatened.”
Irene Lyon in her 21 Day Nervous System Tune-up course alludes to the idea that a dysregulated nervous system stuck in survival mode, or chronic fight or flight, is the environment in which every disease (except genetic disorders) is born.
Trauma or chronic stress equals a dysregulated nervous system equals deteriorating health in every sense of the word, including our mind, soul and heart. When stuck in survival mode, we start to believe we live in a world where we lack safety. Our ability to make healthful decisions and connect with others becomes deeply impaired. This begins to manifest physically which creates more stress and a sense of danger and the cycle continues.
I firmly believe that we can not separate these things out. They are intricately entwined and to heal one area is to heal the other. When we can tap into the power of a healed nervous system we can create safety and rest within, and then build in resilience to connect with others.
A component to my work is ensuring we put a new cycle in motion: As we heal the nervous system, we heal our bodies and our relationship with self and others. As we establish emotional safety, and focus on connection, we heal the nervous system which leads the way to physical healing too! It doesn’t matter which way you look at it or what order you do it in, it all supports a very important journey towards wholeness.
“Heidi is a true treasure as a relationship coach! I am so grateful for her help and support and I highly recommend her sessions. I am constantly reminding myself of everything she taught me and rereading the helpful notes she shared during our time together. She skillfully guides you in making positive changes with the 6 intimacy skills. Heidi is kind, thoughtful and genuinely cares about bringing joy back into your life and relationship. Call her today. She won’t disappoint!”