I’m Heidi Lakin
I help women build the nervous system capacity and relational skills to stay present, cultivate intimacy, and thrive in connection—in their marriages, with their children, and in their lives…
without self-abandonment or avoidance.
This is about learning how to stay.
With yourself.
And in your relationships.
What if…
your system just needs more support, not more pressure?
Are you tired of being in a self-aware prison?
Many women arrive here deeply self-aware, and still frustrated, dysregulated, and stuck. You understand your patterns. You know your triggers. You’ve tried everything that “should” work. And yet your body still feels anxious, shut down, or on edge… especially in your marriage.
Self-awareness without embodiment can quietly turn into constant monitoring, overthinking, and pressure to “do it right.”
While it may feel like something is broken, it often means your system simply needs more support, not more insight.
healing Happens through experience
My work is a trauma-informed modality that blends nervous system regulation, relational and intimacy skills, reparenting and inner safety, plus embodied awareness with practical application.
Together, these pieces help move healing out of your head and into your body, showing up where it matters most: in real conversations, real conflict, and real closeness.
I call this process Building the New: learning how to cultivate connection in a way your body can actually receive it.
If your marriage dysregulates you
that doesn’t mean it’s broken. It often means something wants to heal.
What if your relationship isn’t the problem?
What if it’s the place where healing is meant to happen?
Rather than assuming dysregulation means something is wrong, this work supports you in building the capacity to stay present, repair after rupture, and restore safety and intimacy over time.
True repair happens in relationship–when your nervous system learns it can stay grounded, self-honoring, and connected at the same time.
What heals in marriage flows into motherhood
As you learn to regulate, repair, and stay connected under stress, you create more safety, presence, and confidence in your parenting.
Building nervous system resilience and relational skill in your marriage naturally touches every area of your life.
You will feel supported not just as a partner, but as a mother, friend, and woman in the world.
I didn’t rebuild my life through force. I learned to meet the need and rebuild through presence.
Coming back to myself and owning my story has been deeply empowering. I went from chronic stress, anxiety, anger, dysregulation, fatigue, and feeling unseen, to feeling grounded, empowered, present, and deeply cherished.
The shift didn’t come from leaving my life behind. It came from learning how to build new internal and relational capacity. I’d love to share this with you.
You don’t have to choose between your nervous system, your marriage, and the mother you’re becoming.
