Dignity Heals Low Self Worth

I’ve discovered a pretty fascinating revelation since learning the skills: that self-love is a wonderful benefit of this journey because you’re cultivating dignity. It is amazing how beautiful, confident and lovable you feel when you show up dignified in your relationships and interactions. 

I never knew until now, how to get to that euphoric feeling of self love. What I did do to compensate was try to control what others thought about me and force authenticity, confidence or strength, perhaps also attach my vulnerabilities to justifications. But that always left me with those yucky feelings of rejection and disappointment. I now understand that those feelings come because of a lack of dignity. Where there is control outside of your own responsibility (trying to control how others treat you, what they think, their behavior or manipulate them through emotional tactics) there can be no dignity. Self-control is the only control that honors your dignity. 

Dignity is the ability to show up restful in who I am, while extending that grace to others. It’s the commitment to my paper and no one else’s. Dignity is letting go of control of other’s every time. But it is also the ability to know how I feel and what I want; to express my desires in a way that inspires, without expectation but rather hope towards those desires becoming a reality; a dedication to receiving well when things are given; and also knowing I’m always solely responsible for my happiness. Dignity is the freedom to make myself happy in every situation, so I never have to be a victim. And probably the most important aspect, dignity is being grateful for how everything unfolds. 

Dignity is also having courage to show up vulnerable without accusation or blame; a purity that is so attractive. It is being quick to apologize, without justification. And dignity is being a good listener and allowing others to be the expert in their own lives; assuming the best and treating others as though they are their best selves.

How can you not love yourself when you show up in such an accountable way?! It’s a wonderful thing to experience. 

I’ll choose this path of self love every time.